2007.07.29 We're down to two toothbrushes

Written by David Green.


I knew long ago that it’s all set up backward. Young parents are hard at work to make ends meet when their children are young. Then, as their careers settle down and they have more time on their hands, their children are grown and soon gone.

That’s not right. It shouldn’t work that way.

I haven’t thought about it so much recently with two kids gone and the third having worked her way through high school and becoming more self-sufficient through the years.

But it all came back earlier this month when Morenci’s basketball coach Jim Bauer resigned. He used the time-honored phrase: To spend more time with his family.

Every coach has his or her method of running a program. In Jim’s case, it’s pretty much total immersion. He’s not drowning in basketball; he’s having the time of his life trying out new strokes. He loves coaching.

He knew his “total immersion” approach was a problem when his seven-year-old son was overjoyed with Morenci’s loss in the tournament last March.

But it got worse. He and his son were driving home from Morenci over the summer and Jim was deep in thought about the defense he would be running for a summer tournament game.

Suddenly he got a punch on the shoulder. His son was upset and said something like, “Dad, I’ve been talking to you and you weren’t even listening.”

That was it. Jim soon drafted his resignation letter.

I’m sure there are people who think he’s crazy to quit, but I knew just what he was saying. To do the job of coach and father correctly, something had to go.

I think most people in that situation would have made a pledge to spend more time with the kids and then try to ignore the fact that it was slowly sliding back to normal before too many weeks passed. I was impressed that Jim was able to give up something he loves so much for someone he loves so much.

So where is this column leading? Am I about to announce my resignation in order to spend more time with my family?

It’s a little late for that. We’re down to two toothbrushes in our bathroom. Maddie has gone off to college.

Running a weekly newspaper—doing it right, as Jim Bauer would say—is pretty much total immersion. When people ask if a fourth generation of Greens will take over the paper, I answer that I hope not. I wouldn’t wish that on any of my children.

I think Ben got the best of my life as a newspaper editor. I was plenty busy from the start, but not as much back then. Plenty of swimming, but far from immersion.

I used to frequently take him on the job. I still remember him standing alone in an empty boxcar in Weston as I took a night photo of the chemical plant that had just been sold. On another occasion, we trudged through a swamp in search of the copper-bellied water snake—knee-deep for me, waist deep for him.

I’m sure Rozee had fewer of the off-with-dad adventures than Ben, but Maddie probably got cheated the most. As Ben got older, the things he could do with me often excluded someone six years younger. Maddie began spending a lot of time with her sister while I was getting busier as I learned how to do this newspaper thing right—or at least how to do it in a way that I think makes a good weekly gift to subscribers.

So Ben is living in Miami and Maddie is at the University of Michigan for her second day. Rozee has packed the last few boxes into her car for the trip back to Berea College in Kentucky, her final year there.

After Maddie’s high school graduation in May, I heard a lot of remarks from people about the empty nest coming up. In a few minutes it’s going to be reality, although it’s not quite an accurate assessment. There are still two people living here. Two rather busy people.

And now that all the kids are gone off on their post-high school endeavors, the backward life kicks in—I have all the time I need to work.

Too bad I don’t know more about basketball.

  • Front.cowboy
    A PERFORMER named Biligbaatar, a member of the AnDa Union troupe from Inner Mongolia, dances at Stair District Library last week during a visit to the Midwest. The nine-member group blends a variety of traditions from Inner and Outer Mongolia. The music is described as drawing from “all the Mongol tribes that Genghis Khan unified.” The group considers itself music gatherers whose goal is to preserve traditional sounds of Mongolia. Biligbaatar grew up among traditional herders who live in yurts. Additional photos are on the back page of this week’s Observer.
  • Front.base Ball
    UMPIRE Thomas Henthorn tosses the bat between team captains Mikayla Price and Chuck Piskoti of Flint’s Lumber City Base Ball Club. Following the 1860 rules, after the bat was grabbed by the captains, captains’ hands advanced to the top of the bat—one hand on top of the other. The captain whose hand ended up on top decided who would bat first. Additional photos of Sunday’s game appear on page 12 of this week’s Observer. The contest was organized in conjunction with Stair District Library’s Hometown Teams exhibit that runs through Nov. 20.
  • Front.chat
    VALUE OF ATHLETICS—Morenci graduate John Bancroft (center) takes a turn at the microphone during a chat session at the opening of the Hometown Teams exhibit at Stair District Library. Clockwise to his left is John Dillon, Jed Hall, Jim Bauer, Joe Farquhar, George Hollstein, George Vereecke and Mike McDowell. Thomas Henthorn (at the podium) kicked off the conversation. Henthorn, a University of Michigan–Flint professor, will return to Morenci this Sunday to lead a game of vintage base ball at the school softball field.
  • Front.cross
    HUDSON RUNNER Jacob Morgan looks toward the top of the hill with dismay during the tough finish at Harrison Lake State Park. Fayette runner Jacob Garrow focuses on the summit, also, during the Eagle Invitational cross country run Saturday morning. Continuing rain and drizzle made the course even more challenging. Results of the race are in this week’s Observer.
  • Front.bear
    HOLDEN HUTCHISON gives a hug to a black bear cub—the product of a taxidermist’s skills—at the Michigan DNR’s Great Youth Jamboree. The event on Sunday marked the fourth year of the Jamboree. Additional photos are on page 12.
  • Front.crossing
    Crossing over—Jim Heiney was given a U.S. flag to carry by George Vereecke (behind Jim in the hat), turning him into the leader of the parade. Bridge Walk participants cross over Bean Creek while, in the background, members of the Morenci Legion Riders cross the main traffic bridge on East Street South. Additional photos appear on the back page of this week’s Observer.
  • Front.hose Testing
    HOSE safety—The FireCatt hose testing company from Troy put Morenci Fire Department hose to the test Monday morning when Mill Street was closed to traffic. The company also checks nozzles and ladders for wear in an effort to keep fire fighters safe while on calls.

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